OPINION: What You Should Know About Understanding

I strongly believe that understanding is more important than love, especially when it comes to intimate relationships. Oh no! Don't get me wrong. I am of the opinion that love is great, and as a matter of certainty the best thing that can ever happen to us! But the painful reality is that love is not just enough!

I'll admit that there are people who I love, who I still need to get to understand them better! I hope I'll continue my work to understand them though! (Smiles...)

The willingness to understand is very important.

It is not always easy, but however, healthy love is strengthened by the willingness to understand our significant other better.

Love without understanding will shrivel like flowers without water.

However, something actually drove me into writing about this particular topic. It seems to me that we get too familiar with the word UNDERSTANDING thereby forgetting its nitty-gritty. All we do all along is sing it as one of our church choruses; if not more like our beloved National Anthem! Hehehe forgive me if I am being mean, but I need to tell you the truth.

You will agree with me that what we know about understanding is its dictionary meaning rather than the main act. Like I said earlier, something drew my attention to this discussion, and I will be real to state it right here!

I saw the below sketched picture on a friends DP on WhatsApp, and by that time I was having issues in my relationship, though I was hurt and humiliated, my girlfriend never took out time to also find out if actually I was pained or not... So when I saw the picture, I read it's descriptions over time and discovered that it is indeed life's reality, it happened to me and it can happen to any other person, so I felt I should communicate it you.

Let's take a close look at sketch and relate what's happening right there.

Apart from being a cartoon, it conveys a very strong and obvious meaning in its real sense.

Look beyond the picture!

You see, most cases are like this for those of us in a relationship.

Sometimes you cry, plead, beg, and you even have to compromise to some extent just for someone you truly love to understand your feelings both in joy or pains.

Sometimes your significant other doesn't want to take out time to notice if you can also get hurt, feel bad, and be inflicted or not. (Hehehe as if some of us were created Super-Human).

Some could be caring in disguise but just appear to be selfish, self-centered, egocentric and self-seeking. (Awww don't you agree with me?)

We really do not need to overemphasize on Mutual Understanding, regardless of its vitality.

But let me quickly share with you how understanding works; before you draw that conclusion, before you go further with that decision, always endeavor to fit your leg(s) in other's shoes. Know if they are comfortable in it or not, until then, please do not conclude on them yet, they might have their reasons why they act the way they do!

The knowledge and ability to judge a particular situation is what we see and regard as UNDERSTANDING! So I tell you, understand that situation; occupy yourself, not just your legs in their shoes before you can finally draw your conclusion.

This is exactly how understanding works!

We should really stop defining Understanding and ACT it!

And with the spirit of sound mind which had been given to us according to 2 Timothy 1:7, let's make things work for our own happiness.

Oh by the way, I later settled the score I had with my girlfriend, in case you're still wondering.



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Samuel Enyetip is a Digital Journalist, a Life Coach, and a Thought Leader. He studied Mass Communication at Akwa Ibom State Polytechnic. He is set to making a difference in the era of reporting. 
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