10 Habits of Unhappy People and How to Fix Them

Marianne Williamson once proclaimed, “Ego says, ‘Once everything falls into place, I’ll feel peace.’ Spirit says, ‘Find your peace, and then everything will fall into place.’” Please read the list below to discover how to listen to the advice of your spirit and experience true happiness, success, and peacefulness.

1: Waiting.

In order to be happy, it is necessary to take action. Nothing in life is for certain, so there will always be some doubt as to whether your words or actions are 100% correct—but you can’t allow yourself to experience paralysis by analysis.

2: Asking.

This goes along with trusting your decisions, and with trusting life. Your inner wisdom cannot grow if you are constantly relying on the wisdom of other people, and you’ll never be able to fully own your decisions if they haven’t really been made by you. Take initiative in your life, and don’t look to others for validation unnecessarily.

3: Hoping for future happiness.

The old saying, “Happiness comes from within” seems like a cliché, but it’s quite true nonetheless (as more cliches are). What’s more, happiness is not something that lies at the end of a destination—so you’d better try hard to enjoy the journey in order to experience any happiness whatsoever.

4: Unreasonable expectations.

Trying to accomplish too much too quickly will only make it less likely that you will accomplish what you desire at all. Not only is it important to set goals which are admirable yet achievable, but it’s also important to set goals which are reasonable and possible in the given time frame. Moreover, this encourages thinking that greater happiness is in the future (which should be avoided).

5: Improper expectations.

Too many people expect to be able to control life, and too many people set goals that involve doing so. These types of expectations make you unhappy, so make sure your goals and expectations are both worthy and realistic.

6: Thinking thoughts are truths.

All human beings have thoughts like, “You’re not good enough” from time to time—but not everyone actually believes these thoughts. In reality, thousands of thoughts pop into and fly out of the minds of humans every day, and very few of them are accurate or relevant. Put more stock in close, meaningful, extended thinking rather than instinctive and fleeting thoughts.

7: Passivity.

It’s imperative to let anxious thoughts pass as opposed to allowing them to prevent you from saying something or taking action. Again, all human beings experience these kinds of thoughts, feelings, and emotions, but they can be overcome with effort, time, and practice.

8: Negative focus.

You’ll never be able to get rid of your problems (at least not all of them), but you’ll be able to get rid of far more of your negative thoughts. Just as it’s easy to find something negative about virtually any experience or individual, so too is it is easy to find something positive about almost anything or anyone. It’s all about what you choose to focus on.

9: Avoidance.

Not dealing with challenges or problems when they occur will only cause them to fester, grow larger, and become even harder and more painful to overcome. Furthermore, once these things are overcome then you will become stronger as an individual, and dealing with similar issues in the future probably won’t be quite so difficult or painful.

10: Ignoring inner voices.

No good can come from neglecting your calling. If you know in your mind, heart, and soul that you are destined for a certain career or a specific person, then you might as well start figuring out what you need to begin doing in order to make those visions realities. You’ll never be genuinely happy until you hearken to your inner voices and fulfill your personal destiny. Normally, these sort of things choose you—not the other way around.