Quitting Social Media For a Relationship, Is This Ideal?

I am most certain you already know the answer, depending on your belief and what works for you and your significant other. Let's look at what triggered the question.

A friend of mine popped a question on Facebook; "can you quit social media for the sake of your relationship"? As I read through the comments, I was compelled to sharing my thoughts on the issue, since some comments were not convincing enough. And while typing, I thought to myself that this could be a good topic for my next blog post.

I wrote;

After all said, social media being a platform where all sort of contents ranging from pictures, graphics and videos (private or commercial) are on display for user's consumption, call it an avenue where people connect with old friends while making new ones...

An average person see's social media as a community where they get informed, educated and most of all entertained, as others have already acknowledged with their comments.

However, social media can be so possessive of one's time, if not handled with utmost care; one's entire equilibrium can be questioned.

This is when priority sets in with no apology.

Let's get deep now.

Quitting social media doesn't guarantee the success of a relationship, matter of fact, if a relationship wasn't destined to last long, whether or not you're on social media, it wouldn't make any difference. Individuals need to understand this phenomenal fact; your life within and outside social media has nothing whatsoever to do with your relationship, except otherwise.

If you noticed, I started by acknowledging the great deal social media has brought on humanity ever since its existence, and its side effect if wrongly used. And I also mentioned that priority should be given its proper place, by this I mean; be on social media, get social, but don't be a freak.

I noticed people who commented earlier said stuffs like; "we quit together", " it wasn't part of the agreement", "who does that in the 21st century", "I only quit when we're married", and the like.

Trust me when I say that it is also not a matter of "you quit, I quit'. The most important thing is that you're there for your significant other whenever they need you. You dare not to misplace your priority.

I have seen couples, married for more than 10years, on social media, cross promoting themselves, (the wife will do a post, the husband will comment and vise versa), getting on with their lives pursuit of purpose, and they are doing amazingly well.

Let me quickly say this, love isn't meant to manipulate people, but rather help them grow to become the best version of themselves.

By asking you to do the things you see as abnormal is already a prove that they are not made perfect in love.

The good book says there is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear; because fear has torment.

So just know that they are already tormenting you by requesting for almost the impossible.

If for instance, you own or run an online business, I bet you wouldn't afford to let your business suffer great loss just because your relationship demands that you quite social media.

That will be a wreck!

It only becomes a crime when you allow social media control you. I noticed that people only get pissed when their significant other is a social media freak, (they cannot stay for a while without their phone, they are always online, chatting or doing one thing or the other, getting busy unnecessarily). This only leaves them with a conclusion that your sanity is in doubt.

Conclusively, I like saying this, a sustainable relationship of any kind requires mutual understanding, respect, and trust. These three are key things that will make a relationship stand a test of time.

Always be free to talk about anything, do not leave any stone unturned; include even the irrelevant things in your discussion as this not only gives you boldness but builds your confidence and level of trust between each other.

The last I checked, assumption isn't a wise counsel, so do not end up assuming stuffs, and don't give them room to do so likewise. Keep the communication line open, always.

If this resonates with you, kindly drop your comments below, using the comment box. If you have something different to offer, still use the comment box.